How to build mental strength? If this is the question that has got you to this post, you have come to the right place. Mental strength is the measure of resilience and confidence in an individual while handling tough situations or activities.
Almost everything we do in our day-to-day lives revolves around mental strength and it starts right from good mental health. I have listed a few important ways by which you can take good care of your mental health:
- Get good sleep
- Eat healthy
- Drink plenty of water
- Do workouts
- Breathing exercises
Next, we will look into the ways by which we can build our mental strength or mental stamina. Mental strength has many aspects and hence, there are many factors to consider for developing good mental strength.
Anyone can start working on one’s mental strength building at any point and this will certainly benefit you in one way or the other. If you are a parent, you can start helping your kid in developing decent mental strength alongside one’s regular studies.
One important thing that we need to understand is that we need great mental strength and confidence in every field of life. Many people fail despite being immensely skillful out of lack of confidence and mental strength.
Hence, if you succeed in helping your kid in becoming mentally strong, that will be a great accomplishment for you as a parent and a great gift to your kid.
How to Build Mental Strength: 14 Different Ways
When it comes to building mental strength, there are many factors to consider. As far as the time required for mental strength building goes, it may differ from person to person.
However, as you work on the different factors that I am going to share in this post, you will soon start feeling the difference. Most importantly, before going ahead with any of the practices, you have to ensure that you completely understand the point and the reason why you are doing it.
Work on Clarity
What happens when you have a thing to do and you don’t know how to go about it or maybe you don’t know where to start. Another situation can be finding adequate information on a topic from various sources and then, realizing you still don’t have a clear picture.
This is a lack of clarity and it can make you feel pretty cluttered, confused, and tired. Lack of clarity can largely drain your mental strength. By keeping things clear for yourself, you can save a lot of mental strength from being drained away. Parents should try their best to provide their kids with good clarity at every stage.
When you don’t know how to go about a thing, you can always take your time and do some good research. In the second scenario wherein you don’t have clarity on the topic despite having adequate data, this is just about taking your time and organizing the different pieces of information in a meaningful manner.
I know it may not be as easy as it seems unless you have a great system to follow and this is where GTD comes into play. GTD stands for “Getting Things Done” and the concept was introduced in 2001 by David Allen. The concept isn’t difficult to understand. GTD consists of five important steps:
This is a good place to start and you can put all the data you collected in this section.
This step deals with sub-tasking or breaking down the data into parts.
In this step, you will need to group the parts of the data into appropriate categories.
Reflect or Review deals with checking if the process so far is done in a meaningful way and planning for further action.
This is the step wherein you actually get to work based on the categorized data and plan.
Stop Caring About Things That Are Beyond Your Control
It’s important to be clear about what we can control and what we can’t. When you start caring or worrying about things that are beyond your control, you only end up losing your mental energy. For example, you can’t control the way a person behaves even if you don’t like it and if you still try doing so, you will only end up losing your time and energy.
Never Feel Sorry for Yourself
Sit down and think about the times when you had felt sorry for yourself for something. After that, make a promise to yourself to not ever feel that way if you ever encounter the same situations again.
Besides, remind yourself every day to not feel sorry for yourself no matter how bad something hurts physically or mentally in times to come. After all, feeling sorry for yourself is not going to help in any way other than making you feel more uncomfortable.
Learn to Be Emotionally Stable
Emotional stability means having perfect control over one’s emotions. Another way of looking at it is developing a practical and rational outlook towards everything. The concept shouldn’t be very difficult to understand. Emotional stability means not feeling hurt easily by anything, not getting angry so easily, not overreacting to things, and staying calm even when one is shouting at you.
Speak Little & Avoid Arguments
Speaking little is a wise approach to living as this not only saves your energy from being wasted but also allows you to observe much and remain mindful. Arguments should be avoided as much as possible since often arguments are more based on emotions than reasons. Arguments would only waste your energy.
Mindfulness means paying full attention to something. It means slowing down to notice what you’re doing. Being mindful is the opposite of rushing or multitasking. When you’re mindful, you’re taking your time.
Rushing can drain a lot of mental energy and get you tired. Mindfulness is the opposite of rushing. When you are mindful, you are mentally stronger than when you are not. I have listed a few interesting ways to practice mindfulness.
- Slow down and try to pay attention to the various sounds you can hear at the moment
- Sit, breathe, and watch the different thoughts in your mind (Introspection)
- Another way of practicing mindfulness is being mindful while eating
Patience is not just a word that seems nice in books or songs but it makes a lot of sense in the real world. Patience is your ability to accept delays.
When you lack patience, you tend to get mentally tired pretty quickly. Hence, it’s wise to practice patience every day. Here are some of the best ways to work on increasing patience:
- Have patience with everything you do
- Give others a chance first while you were waiting in a queue for something
- Allow others to talk and be a good listener without interrupting
Work on Improving Focus
We aren’t oblivious to the word, “Focus” but we tend to undermine the importance of focus in our daily lives sometimes. Focus means to be able to concentrate on something or pay complete attention to something without being distracted by any other thing.
With better focus, you can accomplish more in a given time and that would be a great thing to do considering the fact that time is limited in human life. Here are some of the ways by which you can improve focus:
- Live in the moment
- Set a deadline or estimated time
- Eliminate distractions
- Avoid rushing and multitasking
- Take breaks
Detachment is not the same as taking breaks and is a much wider term. Detachment helps you detach mentally from any activity at any point in time with great ease. It also helps you switch over to another activity and carry on without having the impact of the previous activity that you were in.
People who aren’t good at detachment often suffer from Directed Attention Fatigue (DAF) wherein some people get mentally tired out of over-focusing on something. Detachment also ensures that you don’t carry forward the bad experience you had with one activity to another.
One good practice would be taking sudden breaks even when you are in the middle of the most interesting activity. The idea is to not let your brain lock you with anything.
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Comparing yourself to others is never a wise thing to do even though some may think it’s a way of being ambitious. Here’s something you need to understand. Different people have different abilities. For example, some are slow learners while others are fast learners and there’s nothing wrong with it.
Here’s a simple way to look at it. If you want to achieve something in your life or you have a dream, are you going to get any closer to your dream by comparing yourself to others? Instead, what you need to do is plan how you can achieve your dream and start working on it with full focus.
On the contrary, comparing yourself to others will only distract you from your goal and in some cases, may also demotivate you.
How to Keep Calm Under Pressure
I know how difficult it is to keep calm under pressure. At times when the pressure is mounting on you, take a deep breath instead of overreacting. You may have a difficult task assigned to you and on top of that, have a boss yelling at you on the top of his voice. If there is no way you can get a small break, you can take a breath and recite a mantra inside your head like, “This too shall pass.”
I understand situations like these can easily make anyone feel hopeless but try your best not to lose your hope. After things settle down a bit, you can start on your task, and with great focus and approach, you never know, you may create a magical moment.
How to Handle Failures
“Success is failure turned inside out”— Edgar Albert Guest
When you learn how to handle failures, you become very strong mentally and this maximizes your chance of success too. Most people don’t like failing and that’s pretty normal but taking failures too seriously is again not the right thing. Many people are constantly being bothered by the fear of failing all the time and this may affect their preparation as well as performance. What we need is to develop the perception that failures and success are both normal.
Besides, one can’t fail or succeed all the time. What one really can do is prepare harder each time one fails without giving up. Having said that, you may not be able to do it right away after you experience a failure but you can take your time, analyze things well and start practicing better. Most importantly, if you succeed every time, success will have no value left for you.
How to Deal with Invasive People
Invasive people are everywhere. While some love invades into people’s lives by nature and can’t quite help it, others do it to hide their lackings.
Whatever the reasons might be but invasive people can be very irritating sometimes and you need to know effective ways to deal with them before they walk all over you. I have listed a few ways you can stop invasive people from bothering you:
- Never get into any arguments with them
- Cut boring conversations politely and wisely
- Lying for good isn’t bad and you can lie to such people
- Keep your plans and ideas secret from them
- Never lose your cool even when one asks you a very personal question
- When someone asks you a personal question, you can politely tell one that you don’t want to answer it since it’s personal
- If constantly bothered, you can slip into a break saying, “excuse me”
- Politely intimidate if possible
Learn to Relax
We need to have enough ways to relax our minds. Even though there are many ways to go about it, you need to try and see what works the best for you. I have listed a few of the best ways to relax:
- Listening to ambient music or any music of your choice
- Reading motivational books
- Going out for a walk
- Visualizing natural places with eyes closed
- Watching videos of beautiful natural places
- Doing Yoga
The Bottom Line
Mental strength is required in everything and the sooner you work on it, the better it is. You can start building your mental strength at any age and it will surely benefit you. Parents can incorporate mental strength training in their kids’ curriculum and train them at home in case the school doesn’t have it yet.
Disclaimer: I am not a mental strength expert and what I have shared with you in this post is purely based on the research that I did in the recent past as a parent for my kid’s mental strength building.